I used to be a long distance dad with my daughter living almost 2,000 miles away. We would travel back and forth at least 6 times per year to be with each other. We talk for over an hour about two times a week. I bought her a fax machine when she was about 5 so I could help her with homework, which we do together about once a week. When I'm in her town I sit in class with her all day helping the teacher with the students when allowed, reading to them and of course playing at recess. Back on Father's Day 2007 I once again became the luckiest dad on earth (the 1st time was when I was blessed with her birth), as she decided to move across the country to live with me!
Click here for creative ideas on how to be a long distance parent (under construction).
Children have a fundamental, natural, and inalienable right to equal access to both parents, unless circumstances such as neglect or abuse are proven with regard to facts, concrete evidence, rules and law.
Inalienable rights are rights by virtue of being born and have no relation to government now or then, except that freedom can be measured by how much government abrogates these rights.
Constitutionally, the family law system should not become involved unless one parent is refusing to honor the right to equal placement of the other parent, or in proving circumstances of neglect or abuse. Only in these proven cases of neglect or abuse should the separation of "Custodial Parent" (CP) and "Non-Custodial Parent" (NCP) apply. Currently a parent (usually the mother) can label a father as an abuser by simply saying it, without any proof, and the courts believe her and subsequently strip the father of his children.
This is not about fathers rights, it is about equal rights for children, fathers, and mothers. Unfortunately, a very large percentage of children and fathers are denied equal time, therefore denied equal rights. In reality, it is in the "best interest of the Family Law system" of courts, lawyers, guardian ad-litems, social workers and psychologists to encourage custody battles for their own financial gain. Over decades they have managed to manipulate and twist the system using gender bias for their own gain under the ruse of "best interest of the child". They've managed to legalize kidnapping. Furthermore, each state receives federal funding based on the amount of child support that is collected. The more they collect, the more federal funds they get. If the states were to switch to the default equal placement statue guaranteed to all of us by the US Constitution, they would loose millions in federal dollars, not to mention the many people tied to this corrupt system that would loose their jobs due to lack of work. Many states frown on individuals who attempt to combine the support and custody issues together in the same suit, stating that it gives the impression that one is trying to buy a child. When in fact, the State is the one that has created a slavery citation where they strip one parents rights (usually the father), and then additionally fine or charge him for his loss of rights. In no other section of the legal system can a person be imprisoned and/or have their rights stripped away without due process! They even go so far as to penalize the NCP in support arrears by revoking their drivers license. This is supposed to remedy the situation? How then I ask can they get to work to earn the support?
NCP's have a problem with subsidizing the CP housing and when a NCP has the same bills. NCP's have to maintain the same housing for the child as the CP does when the NCP are restricted on when they're allowed to see their child(ren) and nobody hands them free money to pay for what the child needs.
Please remember that in your pursuit of custody issues that "equal custody" not shared is what is in the "best interest of the the child", and is every ones constitutional right. NCP's in actual fact have an "access" problem if they are not being allowed to see their children 50% of the time. THIS is what parental "access" truly means, constitutionally and in whatever interests of the child are conceivably applied, in the case of 2 fit parents.
Most children are NOT abused not by their fathers, but instead by live in boyfriends of the mothers. Also women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. Mothers are the ones that file for divorce the majority of the time, knowing full well that they can walk away with the children, the majority of community property and ongoing support. Additionally, both mothers and fathers appear in the news for murdering their children. The stereo type that most non-custodial fathers are dead-beat dads is a pure myth.
"What is happening to fathers in divorce courts is much more serious than unfair gender bias. An iron triangle of lawyers, judges, and women's groups is finding it increasingly easy - and lucrative - to simply throw fathers out of their families with no show of wrong doing whatever and seize control of their children and everything they have. Family courts have in effect declared to the mothers of America: If you file for divorce we can take everything your husband has and divide it among ourselves, with the bulk of it going to you. We can take his children, his home, his income, his savings, and his inheritance and reduce him to beggary. And if he raises any objection we can throw him in jail without trial.
The astounding fact is that, with the exception of convicted
criminals, no group today has fewer rights than fathers. Even accused
criminals have the right to due process of law, to know the charges
against them, to face their accusers, to a lawyer, and to a trial. A
father can be deprived of his children, his home, his savings, his
livelihood, his privacy, and his freedom without any of these
constitutional protections. And not only a divorced father or a
unmarried father: Any father at any time can find himself in court
and in jail. Once a man has a child he forfeits his most important
constitutional rights."
-- The Fix Is In No Man Can Count On Justice In Family Court,
Argues An Angry Professor, By Stephen Baskerville
Some have compared this to the Jewish holocaust. While I see the holocaust as being much more horrific due to the mass graves, I would like to point out something that the femi-nazi's have done to make the system worse. They have turned our own against us. Men against men! Most judges and attorneys are men, and they are the ones that take our children from us. Imagine if the Jews couldn't have trusted the Jews!
It's utterly AMAZING the lengths government and DHR will go to concoct complex tax schemes and liabilities (and sanctions) on fathers to protect their nefarious Child Support industry. Usually the support amount is based on a high percentage of the NCP's gross income (before tax deductions). However, the CP collects this money tax free! How much more simple---and ethical---just to encourage equal parenting and sharing of financial support of the children of both parents. This would de-criminalize a large segment of our innocent population, would save BILLIONS on profligate government spending waste and unnecessary bureaucracy, and would (by promoting father involvement) significantly reduce the incidence of crime, substance abuse, behavioral problems, illiteracy, and unwed mothers in society.
DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS! I've assembled this
list of links in hopes that it helps at least one person in their pursuit to equal rights
with their children.
Fathers and Child Rights Links
Check out the Superior Court document ruling that the Georgia Child Support Guidelines were ruled unconstitutional.